How to Meet Bisexual Women

Where to meet bisexual women, at a glance

Bisexual chat rooms

Chat rooms are the lowest-pressure place to start. Nobody expects a profile, and you can leave whenever you like. Classic rooms are group text chats, which are fine for getting a feel for the community and less good for getting to know one person.

Girlvo's bisexual chat takes the room out of the chat room: you are paired with one person at a time on live video, with a text box alongside, and no account at any point. If you are still figuring things out yourself, bi-curious chat is written for exactly that.

• Good for: a first conversation, practising saying it out loud, meeting people outside your own city
• Less good for: finding someone within driving distance

Bi video chat

Video answers the two questions text cannot: is this person real, and is there any spark? Ten seconds of video tells you more than a week of messages.

On Girlvo you answer three quick questions, allow your camera and are connected in seconds. Choose women as your preference and the matching looks for women first. Tap Next whenever a conversation is not going anywhere, and nobody takes it personally. You can start a video chat right now, free, without signing up.

• Check your background before you start
• Open with a question, not a comment on looks
• Be clear about what you are after, whether that is friendship, flirting or just talking
• Use the flag if someone is out of line: it ends the chat and blocks them

Dating apps for meeting bisexual women

Apps take more setup, but they are the best tool for meeting someone local with dating in mind. A short list, with no affiliate links and no rankings:

• HER: built for lesbian, bi and queer women and non-binary people, with community groups and events alongside dating
• OkCupid: a long-running app with a wide range of orientation options and question-based matching, so your answers do some of the filtering
• Feeld: aimed at open-minded dating and popular with people who are exploring, with detailed options for orientation and what you are looking for
• Bumble, Hinge and Tinder: the mainstream apps. All let you choose to see women, and their size means more people nearby
• Taimi: an LGBTQ+ app that combines dating with a social feed

Two pieces of advice apply to all of them. Say that you are bi, or that you are looking for bi women, in the first lines of your profile, because it saves everyone time. And expect the free tier to be usable but limited, since most apps sell upgrades.

Local: bi events and groups

Online is where most people start, but friendships and relationships that last often come from showing up somewhere more than once.

• LGBTQ+ community centers: most cities have one, and many run bi-specific or women's social groups
• Meetup and similar sites: search for bi, queer women or sapphic groups. Book clubs, hiking groups and board game nights are easier than bars
• Pride events: the main parade is crowded, so look for the smaller bi and women's events around it
• Bi Visibility Day on September 23: many cities hold socials, panels or picnics
• Queer sports leagues, choirs and volunteer groups: a shared activity gives you something to talk about

If nothing exists near you, online communities fill the gap. The Bisexual Resource Center publishes resources for bi+ people and points to community groups, and most cities have an active local subreddit or Discord server.

How to start a conversation

Wherever you meet, the opening line matters less than people fear. What works is being specific and being normal.

Do

• Ask about something she said or mentioned, not about her orientation
• Mention early what you are looking for
• Treat her being bi as unremarkable, because to her it is

Avoid

• Asking her to prove it, rank her attractions or explain her past
• Opening with a threesome proposal, which bi women hear constantly
• Assuming she is confused, going through a phase, or available to everyone

A simple opener that works almost anywhere: "Hi, I am Sam. What brought you here tonight?" It is open, it is not about looks, and it gives her room to set the tone.